I can only hope

that this is a joke:




Some how, I have a feeling its not. I remember in middles school seeing girls with that little emblem on their shirts, earrings, bags, etc.

I remember it thoroughly disturbing me. I remember asking one girl politely why she wore it. And I remember that the answer was so mind numbing that I blocked it from memory till I saw this cake: "because it means I'm sexy"

Now what exactly does this statement mean?

does the emblem make you sexually attractive? obviously not, no amount of any symbol can manically make you physically pretty/attractive/sexy.

Does the symbol indicate you consider your self sexy? I suppose so. But what it really means is that you are sexually available. Now don't get me wrong, I am all about having a healthy sexual apatite, and I realize that happens at different times for different people (I couldn't imagine wanting to make my self sexually available in 7th grade.) But saying I am a sexual being vs. I am sexually available for a sexual being are two different things.

What she meant to say was, this: "because it makes me available for sexual use of another.

Once again, being sexually wanted isn't wrong, but wanting to allow some one to use you for their sexual desires rather than expressing your own sexual desires, especially at such a young age, well that frightens me.

but now you have to think.... how many symbols are there that say "i am sexual" for a female, rather than emblems and indicators of " I am yours to use sexually"?

frankly I can't think of any.

This means this poor girl not only didn't know better than to find a way to express her own sexuality rather than her male peers sexuality, but she really didn't have much other options. There is no pop-culture emblem that says "I am sexual" for females, only ones like this that say , I am here for your sexuality.


But getting back to the 6 year old's cake..... *shudders*

at least the girl in middles school, although horribly misguided, chose to wear this emblem. This little 6 year old had no choice. Her parents placed this on her cake. Her parents have already decided for her that she is not entitled to her sexuality, but whats more that is is suppose to be for the sexual use of others.

once again, I can hope that it was just a joke.... seems liek a joke one of my friends might play too...